How To Use A Dildo

Dildos are some of the most popular sex toys to buy. They are a penetration toy that are designed to sexually stimulate you. Dildos have been around and used for a long time, in fact numerous ancient Egyptian paintings feature dildos.

How to Use Lubricant with a Dildo

When using a dildo or any other penetration toy, the first thing you should always consider is lubrication. The body does provide some lubrication vaginally when aroused but using a good quality lube can make things much more comfortable and contribute to an overall smoother and more enjoyable experience. In contrast, using lube is an absolute must if you use your dildo anally as the anus does not produce any natural lubrication by itself to aid penetration.

Always make sure you check that your lubricant is compatible with your sex toy as silicone lubes can cause material degradation when used with silicone dildos. For anal play we always recommend long-lasting, thick gel lubricants as they need to be re-applied less often.

How to Insert a Dildo

You should try and relax yourself mentally and physically before playing with your dildo. Using a vibrating sex toy like a bullet vibrator to get yourself aroused is a good idea too, and you can even keep that going while you use the dildo to double up on stimulation.

When you are ready, find a comfortable position, and apply some lube to the tip and shaft of the toy and some to yourself. Hold the toy at its base and place it to the entry of your vagina or anus. Apply some pressure and let the dildo slide inside slowly. You may need to adjust the angle of penetration to make it more comfortable, but once you find a pleasurable method, you can start pulling out the dildo before thrusting it back in, adjusting the speed to fit your preference.

How to Thrust Your Dildo

You can easily control the depth of penetration when you manually thrust your dildo in and out. With short, shallow thrusts you can stimulate the nerve endings closer to the entry of your vagina or anus. These areas are very sensitive and respond really well to stimulation, so if this is the type of penetration you prefer, you can easily achieve this with your dildo by only penetrating yourself a
couple of inches before pulling out.

In contrast, long, deep thrusting can reach internal erogenous zones and spots that shallow penetration can’t. Some people enjoy the stimulation of the entry of the cervix, and longer dildos can be used to achieve this. If you want to penetrate yourself deeply, just let the dildo slide all the way in until its base and only start pulling it back once you’ve achieved the desired depth.

If you want to find your G-spot, you should lay on your back and place a pillow under your bottom to raise your hip. Insert your dildo and angle it upwards, towards your bellybutton. The G-spot is located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina, and it becomes more pronounced during arousal. Curved dildos can make reaching and stimulating your G-spot easier, while using a bullet vibrator on your clitoris can help become and remain aroused throughout your masturbation session. If you want to experience g-spot stimulation, but think aren’t sure that a dildo is the right penetration toy to help you achieve this, then take a look at our full guide to the best sex toys for g-spot stimulation.

How to Use Suction Cup Dildos

A suction cup at the base of your dildo makes hands-free play possible so you can penetrate yourself without having to thrust the dildo inside yourself manually. This leaves your hands free to caress yourself, use other toys or even pleasure a partner all the while you use your dildo to pleasure yourself.

Suction cup dildos can be attached to any flat surface, like your floor, tiles, your bed’s headboard or a mirror. You can use your toy in a vertical or horizontal position depending on where you stick the suction cup. 

The most popular way to use suction cup dildos is in a horizontal position, so by attaching it to the wall or the headboard. This lets you back onto the dildo in a doggy position and control the depth, speed and angle of penetration.

Alternatively, if you secure the suction cup vertically, so on the floor for example, you can either sit or squat on it, giving you a similar sensation as the cowgirl sex position.

Most suction cups also make your dildo harness compatible which means you can use it with a strap-on harness with an O-ring. Strap-on harnesses can be used for penetrative sex between two women or for pegging between opposite sex partners. You can lead the shaft of the dildo through the O-ring of the harness to hold the suction cup in place so you can thrust and penetrate with the dildo like someone with a real penis would. 

Suction cup dildos are extremely versatile as they allow you to play many different ways both solo and with a partner.

How to Use Your Dildo in the Bathroom

The bathroom is a great place to experiment with your dildo, especially if it has a suction cup base. Suction cups attach to tiles very easily and securely and you can even enjoy warm water running down on your body while you please yourself with penetration and internal stimulation if you use your suction cup dildo while having a shower.

You can also use the side or base of your bathtub to stick the suction cup on as these surfaces are flat enough to hold the dildo securely while you bounce away at it.

Using the toilet seat is also a popular option as it’s generally at a comfortable height and sturdy enough to take a good pounding from you.

Temperature Play with a Dildo

If your dildo is made of a material like metal, glass or silicone, you can heat it up or cool it down for extra sensations, this is called temperature play.

Glass dildos are perfect for temperature play, to cool down your dildo, you can either put it in your fridge half an hour before play or you can run cold water on it to cool it down. Conversely, if you want a more lifelike experience, you can put your dildo under warm or hot water to reach a temperature close to your body’s natural temperature.

Anal Stimulation with a Dildo

Most dildos are suitable for anal play so you can use them to penetrate yourself anally. It’s important that the dildo you want to use anally has a wide base to prevent the toy from travelling up. You should always use lubrication for anal play to avoid injury and to make you experience as pleasurable and comfortable as possible. Some lubricants are specifically formulated for anal sex –
they tend to have a thicker, gel-like formula and last longer, so you don’t have to re-apply it too often.

If you have a prostate, using an anal dildo can help you stimulate this special erogenous zone. Located a couple of inches inside the anal canal, prostate massage can result in very powerful, full-body orgasms and can even contribute to general prostate health.

If you have a vagina, you can try double penetration with your partner by using a dildo anally while letting them penetrate you vaginally. This will make your vagina tighter for your partner while providing you with simultaneous internal stimulation. This can also be a safe and easy way to start experimenting with threesomes, without the added pressure of having another person present with
you.

If you have any more questions on how to use a dildo then please feel free to contact us and one of our sex toy experts and sex educators will get back to you as soon as they can!